About
“Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.”
– George Edward Woodberry
My name is Seska Lee. I am an activist, model, performer, webmaster and writer based out of Montreal, Canada.
I created this website in 1998 as a platform for my sexual exploration and self expression. It led me down many different paths and through my real and virtual travels I met all sorts of interesting and diverse people and I learned so much about body image, relationships, sexuality, sex work and bottom line – myself. I have always felt driven to share my experiences and knowledge with others and what began as a simple independent porn site turned into a network of sites featuring erotica, sexual lifestyle tips, sex ed articles and so much more. It is a labour of love for me and I hope you find value in what I have to offer.
Prior to working in the field of adult entertainment I was an educational consultant. I have two BAs (Child Studies & Psychology). By day I spend most of my time researching, writing and working as a webmaster. By night you can find me in theatres and cabaret halls as a burlesque performer and producer. Though as a self-employed person I often mix it up.
I launched my my amateur xxx site in 1998. The members-only section is home to all of my photos, videos, and writing. It is mostly about my sex life, but I also share things about other aspects of my life such as:
- my activism (sex and body politics, sex worker rights & youth empowerment)
- my interests (burlesque, film, music, reading, running, theatre and wellness)
- my pets (Rufus & Martha)
If only they always got along nicely like this.
Joining my paysite is a great way to show your support for me and my efforts. You get access to all of my xxx content as well as those of over 20 sites in the VIP Members network which will make you happy which makes me happy.
Stats
Astrological Sign: Aquarius
Measurements: 5’4″ 34B- 28-38
Age: 41
Special features: green eyes, birthmark (where? you have to discover that for yourself), lots of little beauty marks all over my body
Sexual Orientation: Bent. There are different terms people use, like bisexual or pansexual and both do apply to me. However, I like the word bent because I am definitely not straight.
Marital Status: Separated. A great deal of the photographic and video content of my website was created in collaboration with my former partner James. For various reasons our marriage ended. While I prefer not discussing the details, I can say that while it has been the most difficult experience of my life, after a great deal of personal work and therapy I now have a renewed sense of purpose and optimism as I enter this new phase of my life . I wish for him to have the same.
from my 'simply sexy' photoshoot with my friend AH (2012)
Favourite Things
TV: Current stuff such as The Big Bang Theory, Boardwalk Empire, Game of Thrones, The Hour, Mad Men, The New Girl, Shameless, True Blood, and Vampire Diaries. Yes, I watch The Vampire Diaries. Its my porn. Such pretty people doing such silly things. I also used to enjoy Angel, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Gilmore Girls, LOST and a whole lot of Sci-Fi.
Movies: Breakfast at Tiffany’s, Bull Durham, Clue, The Company of Strangers, Donnie Darko, Finding Nemo, Garden State, The Graduate, Grease (1 & 2 – yes, I said 2 – it’s a Michelle Pfeiffer in spandex thing), The Muppet Movie, Pride and Prejudice, Princess Bride, Rebel Without a Cause, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Roman Holiday and again lots of Sci-Fi.
Books: My favourite non-fiction books are Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel and Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan, Ph.D
Music: I listen to music when I run so most of what I listen to is upbeat rock and pop stuff, though I do have a sweet spot for 1960′s and 1980′s music (this kind of stuff tends to be the inspiration for my burlesque performances). Lately, I was introduced to the some amazing acts in local music scene here in Montreal and my heart has been exposed to such beauty and grit. Its been quite astounding.
Foods: pasta puttenesca , peanut butter and jam sandwiches, gazpacho, hot and sour soup with lemongrass, tapioca pudding
Clothes: I find you can’t go wrong with a tight black knee length skirt! I can dress it up or dress it down depending on the occasion. I adore wearing stockings, thigh highs, and fishnets – especially with cute open toe shoes or stiletto heels. When it comes to just being cosy I love jeans and cargo pants with soft t-shirts and tank tops. On my feet? Jack Purcell’s or flip flops.
my best Halloween DIY costume ever (2011)
What (and Who) Turns Me On
Humour (being able to laugh at yourself is so attractive), go-getters, people who are hard working and have some special skill, music with a slow but strong beat, dressing up, playing pretend, water (taking steaming hot baths makes me feel so sexy and skinny dipping makes me feel so free).
Besides my attraction to real-life lovers, I also have crushes on people in the public eye. They might give you an insight into my type. In alphabetical order (I hate playing favourites): Maria Bello, Selma Blair, Marisa Tomei, Steve Carell, Ryan Gosling, and Jake Gyllenhaal. I also have this long time attraction to Jeff Goldblum. Just something about him.
Quirks and Such
I have a passion for holistic living, organic whole foods and sustainable agriculture. I am doing my best to stay focused on the bigger picture of health and the joys of eating well. I do feel so good when I make good choices!
I am a runner. I trained for a half-marathon, but have taken some serious time off . Right now I am in a getting back in shape phase. My workouts include treadmill walking/running, strength training at the gym and yoga. I joined a bowling league last summer and I am having the best time.
I love to take naps. I talk in my sleep. I have a particular way I make my bed.
sleeping on the way back from Toronto
Favorite Quotes
“There is a vitality, a life-force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action. And because there is only one you in all of time this expression is unique and if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open whether you choose to take an art class, keep a journal, record your dreams, dance your story or live each day from your creative source. Above all else, keep the channel open.” –Martha Graham
“Until you lose your reputation, you never realize what a burden it was or what freedom really is.” –Margaret Mitchell
Motivations
For life – the big blue sky, creatures great and small, freedom, friends and family.
For this web site – to share my creative and sexual side with the world, to help change negative and destructive beliefs about women and sex by being an example of sincere sexuality, and to bring pleasure to the lives of others.
