Kiss and Tell - Part 1

One of the issues you will have when you have sex with me is that I will kiss and tell. I do check in with the person before I share the details. Some folks are really excited about it and have extra fun with it by requesting a specific pseudonym. Does anyone remember my hot hook-up video with Zenith? I still do!

Well, it’s time for another kiss and tell. But first some background.

After I got my second vaccination I decided to explore partnered sex again. I haven’t been very inspired to seek out partners ever since I moved to Ottawa. I did date a very lovely man that I’ve known for a few years but it was long-distance and when the pandemic hit I had the deep realization I wanted to focus on my family and work-life so we broke up.

On a more existential note, my social life has not been orientated towards sex, romance, and dating the way it used to be. Since I got sober 7 years ago I haven’t experienced pain and suffering in the same way I used to and I haven’t needed or wanted to use sex as a distraction or an analgesic. The times I’ve tried to explore dating were unsatisfying or unpleasant. I also dabbled in online connections and connections over social media. It was an opportunity for personal growth in setting boundaries and knowing my worth and realizing that I needed the time to figure out the role sex, alone and partnered, played in my life as the person I am today.*

Then the Covid-19 pandemic gave me the time and space to do just that. Now I’m ready to add partnered sex back into my life and since I had my second dose of the vaccine (as have all adults in my family bubble) I’ve hit Tinder to find some mutually pleasurable fun.

I paid for the Platinum package because I wanted all the bells and whistles, all the options to control the experience. The last time I tried Tinder didn’t pay for anything I mainly had very arrogant and pushy men. I hoped by using the pay-for-access type options I’d have a better experience. I’m not sure if it’s because of them that I’ve had a better time but indeed I have.

I’ve made some good matches conversation-wise. I’ve met up with two men with a few others waiting in the wings for our schedules to align.

* 50 years old, perimenopausal, cis woman, super-involved Aunt to two neurodivergent kids, live-in caregiver, sober, introvert, sex worker, nonmonogamous