Kiss and Tell - Part 2
On my dating app profile, I posted that I’m happily single and looking for mutually pleasurable and uncomplicated experiences. I also noted that I’m double vaxxed and ethically non-monogamous (ENM) and looking for the same.
I wrote all that because I wanted to let people know I’m pleasure-focused and looking for sex but not be crass about it. I didn’t write much about the demands on my life but when chatting with people I matched with I did share that I’m a full-time caregiver. I wanted to give some context as to my limited availability. Because of my responsibilities living with an immunocompromised elderly parent and being on call for my sister and her two complex neurodivergent kids, I really don’t have lots of free time.
It hasn’t made for the sexiest of conversations but to make up for that I’ve used my online name so people can at least Google me and find my porn. I decided I would rather they learn about my work that way than for me to repeatedly out myself. You have no idea how exhausting and demoralizing it can be to do that in general but also within the dating experience. EXHAUSTING. The first fella I met up with I did so rather spontaneously in mid-July. I happened to be running an errand in Centertown and he happened to not be working on a Friday. He works for the government, is double vaxxed, and recently tested. The timing was right and so we were able to meet, chat and, yes, get it on.
When I got to his place I discovered he was cute and had a bit of Dermot Mulroney look to him. We sat on his sofa and moved closer to touch as the conversation went on. We got a bit flirty and kissed. We then went to the bedroom and we made out some more and engaged in some mutual masturbation, lots of oral on him, and some fucking.
After over a year of partnered sex celibacy, I got what I needed. If I were to see him again I’d prefer more fucking. I’d also want some reciprocal oral but I get that a hairy bush is not for everyone. I also only want it if the person doing it loves going down on a woman AND knows their way with my clit.
In my further dating app adventures, I’ve happened to meet up with two fellas who are interested in shooting with me and I’m really happy about that. I wasn’t planning to use dating apps in this way (they really hate sex workers). I mainly wanted to feel less like a born-again virgin. But I’m really happy to have found some young men with on-camera experience interested in shooting with me.
More on my encounters with them in the next part!