Rethinking Casual Sex

I think the only way I can have casual sex or whatever label is most appropriate is if 1) it’s with my porn site peers (awesome mix of friendship, work and fun - I’m thinking of Anna and Bruce of RealSwingers and Tim Lake and company from Homegrown Video) and other friends in the sex worker community. Especially ladies. 2) its with true casual partners (strong but not intense physical attraction and no serious emotional bond) who I don’t socialize with on a regular basis, but we have a nice friendly connection. People who are in Montreal for a short time or who I see when I am out of town are ideal for this. And if I have a strong emotional attachment and attraction with someone and I want to have an open relationship, then I need there to be trust, honesty and openness to communicate and negotiate. Only then I am comfortable and confident exploring casual relationships and for them to do the same. - 1) is not available to me these days given I do not travel for porn work and I have been hanging out with mostly straight civilian types. 2) is a possibility except that I am dealing with having a strong emotional attachment without the trust, honesty and openness to communicate and negotiate. Plus I am dealing with filing papers and moving from being separated to divorced. I am finally in a place where I am strong enough to address the issues in my marriage and it is too late. I have had a very painful few days as this has sunk in. My friends have been supportive and there for me. Except for one. And that adds to the hurt and leads to all of this questioning on my part. So I am thinking I need a bit of a breather from casual sex and my messed up emotional bonds. Even a little break in my social life in general. Put my heart on the shelf for a while. She has had a rough time of it lately. Hibernation is looking very attractive to me.